These moments of confusion and uncertainty filled with questions are uncomfortable but necessary for your growth. Often when we are stuck we start to ask why, or to search for the answer of where this particular moment fit in the larger scheme of life.
Rainer Maria Rilke writes in his Letters to a Young Poet,
“Don't be too quick to draw conclusions from what happens to you; simply let it happen. Otherwise it will be too easy for you to look with blame... at your past, which naturally has a share with everything that now meets you.”
The pious of the past also experienced days or years of trials before they succeeded. Your experiences are not unprecedented.
Allah says in the Qur'an,
"No calamity befalls (one), but with the leave of Allah. And whoever believes in Allah,
He guides his heart. Allah is All-Knowing about everything."
-Surah At-Taghabun (64:11)
Perhaps the key isn't to avoid calamity. The key is to understand that every calamity that befalls upon us is by Allah's will. The key is to believe and trust Allah in our calamity. And when we believe and trust in Him, Allah will guide our hearts to make the right decisions, and open up doors and make way for us from where we do not expect, as mentioned in Surah at-Talaq (65:3)
We just have to live in these moments. Rainer Maria Rilke writes,
“I beg you, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”
