Friday, 18 September 2015

Rant on Rape Culture.

I just think no one wants to talk about rape unless they want to blame women. I was once in the car and we drove pass a woman who was covered but wearing tight clothes and the driver said, "how does she expect not to get raped when she dresses like that?"

I got touched two times when I was in full niqaab. My clothes were loose. The first time it happened I was in a market. I was so stunned and by the time I look back to see the man, he was lost amidst all the people. The second time it happened I was on a bus. Again fully covered, niqaab and all. That left me speechless. I froze and I was shaking so much after that.

I once told a friend this during our discussion on rape and she said I shouldn't have gone out at night, I should've been with a mahraam.

It shouldn't surprise me, but it did. When will a woman NOT be guilty of rape and sexual assult? 

Yesterday I was having another conversation and this woman said that men are created this way, it is their fitrah, their means of reproduction. Yes, getting turned on is a fitrah, but forcing yourself  onto others? 

Men get away with so many things. They can rape and be told its not their fault. Men will be men, they say. Boys will be boys, regardless of how destructive their behaviours are no one corrects them. But god forbid girls eating impolitely, god forbid girls have body hair. That's not their fitrah, right?! 


I attend lectures and ustadhs, who are men, who are patriarchal will go on about their rights and women. Women should bow down to their husbands, beautify themselves for their husbands, take care of kids for their husbands, be a good daughter, submit to sex whenever demanded. 

But men? No one talks about men. Ever. 

But this is not islaam. Do not bring your problematic patriarchal behaviour and call it islaam. 

The Prophet spoke about women in his farewell speech. He identified how women was repressed during the time of jahiliyyah and gave them their due rights. He ordered men to be kind to women. He married women older than him. Widows. Divorcees. Out of all his wives, only one was a virgin, Aaesha radiallahu anha. But it was through Aaesha that the knowledge on women in islaam was established. She had no children. She was not a mother. Yet her status was still raised through her knowledge. Umar al Khattab, the second caliph in Islaam allowed his wife to shout at him during an argument. This was the man that shaytaan runs away from. When a man raped, he whipped the man and exiled him. 

The lowering if the gaze? No one talks about that! Once the prophet sallahu alayhi wasallam was travelling with another man and she stared at a woman and the prophet took his face and turned it away. 

We need to talk not only about the outcome (rape) but the cause as well (men). We also need to examine the things that enforces rape culture (porn would be a good start for example..) and how rape culture has also seeped into mainstream media (tv shows, music, etc)

We need to be more critical. We need to step up tbh. Victim blaming doesnt stop rape, in fact, in only reinforces it.

Thursday, 17 September 2015

Love and Justice.

Loving is part of justice and justice is part of loving, they go hand in hand. In order to love you need to ensure that people receive their due rights and freedom, and in order to achieve justice you need to love enough to look at a person as deserving of being treated right. Justice and love goes hand in hand, they complete each other and cannot exist without one another. Truly ask yourself if you are loving properly and if you are really striving to achieve justice.

September 2015 // Here are some mystery thrillers


Apparently reddit has the best writers and it is undeniable. The stuff in nosleep is really good.
TW: It's really messed up and unsettling. Read the comments only when you're done.
  • Footsteps. Five Parts. All can be found here.


My alltime favourite is Bakuman by the same people who wrote and drew Death Note. (I'm just putting it out there despite the fact that I read it over 3 years ago.)
  • Girls of the Wild (manhwa)
Girls in martial arts, strong and fierce but not sexualised. 
  • unTOUCHable (manhwa)
Vampire and human love story, but not cheesy, I promise. It's cute.

3. MOVIE(s)

Trailers available on YouTube. 
  • Belle
  • Inside Out 


Tuesday, 8 September 2015

September 2015 // Readings on Refugee Crisis.

The current syrian refugee crisis is extremely similar to the recent rohingyan refugee crisis in south east asian countries (mainly malaysia, thailand and indonesia). The syrian refugee crisis was only recently acknowledged worldwide after the body of a little boy named Aylan Kurdi was washed up on a beach in Turkey. Picture spread (against the will of his family. His aunty specifically requested for the picture of his dead body to not be spread) and his story, along with his family's caught on a wildfire and more and more news started recognizing that Aylan's story is not an isolated one and they started covering the root of the problem, refugee crisis.

(Before reading the articles below, please read my previous post on Warsan Shire poetry. Thanks.)

"It is up to the social movements, the Left, and the self-organization of the refugees themselves to turn this moment into a coherent political response that addresses the root causes of the crisis and puts real pressure on the establishment to develop a solution — one that doesn’t involve more fences, more border guards, or more racist demagoguery.."

I'll stop here for now. I didn't know reading this would be as emotionally taxing as it is. May Allah ease their burdens and give them strength. Fi amanillah.

Sunday, 6 September 2015

Poem by Warsan Shire.

No one leaves home unless home is the mouth of a shark.
You only run for the border when you see the whole city running as well.
Your neighbours running faster than you, your breath bloody in their throats
and the boy you went to school with who kissed you dizzy behind the old tin factory is holding a gun bigger than his body.
You only leave home when home won’t let you stay.
No one leaves home unless home chases you, fire under feet, hot blood in your belly
and even then you carry the anthem under your breath, only tearing up your passport
in airport toilets, sobbing 
as each mouthful of paper made it clear that you would not be going back.
You have to understand, 
no one would put their children in a boat unless the sea is safer than the land.
No one burns their palms under trains, beneath carriages.
No one spends days and nights in the gall bladder of a truck feeding on newspaper
unless the miles travelled mean something more than journey.
No one crawls under fences, 
wants to be beaten, wants to be pitied.
No one chooses refugee camps or strip searches where your body is left aching,
or prison, because prison is safer than a city of fire,
and one prison guard is safer than fourteen men who look like your father.
No one could take it.
Could stomach it.
No one’s skin would be tough enough.
“Go home blacks”, “refugees”, “dirty immigrants”, “asylum seekers”.
“Sucking our country dry”.
“Niggers with their hands out”. “They smell strange”, “savage”.
“Messed up their own country and now they want to mess up ours?” 
How do the words “dirty looks” roll off your back? 
And maybe it’s because the blow is softer than a limb torn off.
Or the words are more tender than fourteen men between your legs.
Insults are easier to swallow than rubble, than bone, than your child’s body in pieces.
“I wanna go home.”
But home is the mouth of a shark.
Home is the barrel of a gun.
And no one would leave home unless home chases you to the shore.
Unless home told you to quicken your legs.
Leave your clothes behind. Crawl for the desert. 
Wade for the oceans.
Drown. Save. Be hungry. Beg.
Forget pride, your survival is more important. 
No one leaves home unless home is a sweaty voice in your ear, saying 
“Leave. Run away from me now. I don’t know what I’ve become, 
but I know that anywhere is safer than here.“

September 2015 // FEMEN

It has been quite some time since I've posted, I've been working and haven't quite made myself sit and write out a post when I'm free, but I'm getting to it now.

I've watched a documentary on VICE (I am aware of their credibility and it being less on facts and more on "spicing" things up) on FEMEN recently.

And here are commentaries on FEMEN which I agree with:

I've also been reading about the syrian refugee crisis (which is also very similar to the rohingyan refugee crisis several months ago). Will post articles soon. Until then, ma'a salaama.